D N Singh
Why is my child so argumentative? It could be a phase of asserting independence, a response to stress or change, or an indication of underlying issues. However, your child may simply be spirited and passionate about their points of view. They may become a great leader in the future if they can hone their skills.
This is a question that haunts many parents of the day when the majority of the children are exposed (addicted to be fair) to the world of modern day entertainment modes. Which patently leads them to be over assertive and hold on to the views they learn.
So, obviously, child grooming gets all the more hard to tackle when a child is argumentative. In essence he or she is driven by a psyche which unwittingly becomes his or her nature’s course.
It can be difficult, but managing conflicts with your child is an essential part of that. It's an opportunity to impart to children valuable life lessons like empathy, communication, and how to resolve conflicts.
Keep in mind that disagreements are a natural component of interpersonal communication and present a chance for development. You may support your child's development of important life skills and improve your relationship with them by treating conflicts with patience, empathy, and a focus on teaching constructive communication.
Not an over-night solution
So, what we need to do. Avoid answering your child's argument with one of your own. Instead, give her a clear explanation of your viewpoint and go away. Everyone loses when we make parenting decisions in response to a child's disagreements and conflicts.
Stay calm
It's crucial to remain calm and composed during arguments. Avoid reacting emotionally or becoming defensive. Being composed provides a good example for your child, who frequently imitates your emotional condition.
Actively listening: By paying attention to what your child has to say, you may demonstrate to them how much you appreciate their viewpoint.
That helps a lot and experts agree with how it dilutes a major part of his or her mind-set.
To be sure you have understood them accurately, make eye contact, and rephrase their perspective. They experience being heard and understood as a result.
Make sure your youngster is aware of the limitations and guidelines in your home. When a disagreement arises, remind them of these limitations. To make sure your child understands what is expected of them, go over the rules and guidelines with them. By letting your youngster know what is expected, consistent rules can help prevent disagreements.
Encourage your child to come up with possible solutions to the issue. They may get critical thinking and conflict-resolution abilities through this. Find concessions that you and your child can both accept by working together. Which is very, very important.
No shouting
Show healthy communication by refraining from yelling, calling others names, or using derogatory terminology. Since your child picks up on your actions, it is essential to communicate respectfully.
Educate your child on the value of compromise and locating common ground. Encourage them to think about not just their own needs and viewpoints, but also those of others.
When your child handles conflicts with maturity and respect, praise and reward them. They may be inspired to continue practising effective communication skills through encouragement. That works like a panacea.
If you approach handling your child's conflicts with compassion, empathy, and efficient communication, it may be a pleasant experience and half of the problems solved.
You can successfully handle conflicts with your child by carefully listening, empathising, and giving clear expectations. Keep in mind that conflicts between parents and children are common. Your aim should be to show your child respectful communication skills and dispute-resolution techniques. A healthy parent-child connection also depends on maintaining a strong relationship. Also, every child is different, so it could take some time to find the best strategy for your particular circumstance.
About the Author: DN Singh is a Bhubaneswar-based senior journalist.
DISCLAIMER: This is the personal opinion of the author. The views expressed in this write-up have nothing to do with www.prameyanews.com.
